Have the Courage to be Disliked

Nov 13

Welcome to Another Big 3!

Today, let's explore embracing who we are and having the courage to be disliked. It's a straightforward read.

Enjoy!

The Lesson

Embracing Who You Are is the Goal

Since entering my 40s, I find myself less concerned about people's opinions, and more comfortable owning contrarian thoughts.

I am ok being the "villain" in someone's story and no longer feel the need to prove them wrong. It's liberating.

Is it age? Maybe. To finally realize that this fleeting experience we call life is meant to be lived authentically and free, and not as a prisoner of others' realities is a gift I wish for all of us.

Whatever caused this shift, I am grateful for it.

As you read these lines, I want you to contemplate what kind of life you would live, if you were comfortable making a few people mad at you. It's worth it.

The Book

**The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga**

I have been meaning to read this book but never got to it. While writing this week's lesson, it became obvious the time had come to dive in, so I am sharing it with you.

According to the authors, we are all free to determine our future, liberated from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and others' expectations. So why not give it a try?

The Courage To Be Disliked is the first book I recommend in the Big 3 based on a hunch, reviews and summaries alone. So I'd love to hear what you will get from it, should you choose to read it. I have a feeling I will enjoy it and I hope you do too.

The Strategy

Be "Bad" and See What Happens

Is there an unpleasant situation you wish you were handling differently right now? Maybe it's a colleague taking credit for your work, a family member who doesn't respect your boundaries, or perhaps, someone who owes you money and shows no effort to pay you back.

If you are a recovering people pleaser like me, there are still many instances where you'd rather be bad than accommodating.

Your challenge this week, is to answer the following question “How would you handle this situation if you were a ‘bad girl/boy’? Like, if you were a rebellious, cutthroat, instead of a good person? What would you do?